They minimize the abuse or deny how serious it really was.
They continues to blame you or others for their behavior.
They claim that you’re the one who is abusive.
They tell you that you owe them another chance.
They say that they can’t change unless you stay with them and support them.
They try to get sympathy from you, your children, or your family and friends.
They expect something from you in exchange for getting help.
They pressures you to make decisions about the relationship.